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\u201cFemale characters are often portrayed as overly emotional, with a kind of softness I don\u2019t connect to,\u201d she says. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI prefer more outspoken, masculine characters. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI relate to yaoi characters far more than I ever did to female ones.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
From there, the argument becomes more complex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cOne of the key things is that the protagonists are male, but often they look very gender neutral or quite feminine,\u201d says Professor Madill. \u201cThere’s a kind of slippage of gender.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Characters are often not strictly masculine and have softer features, ambiguous bodies, or emotional expressiveness that does not align with rigid gender norms. At the same time, they retain the social position of being male.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThis genre is most often written by women,\u201d Koi_256 says, \u201cso the male characters themselves will more frequently have personalities and behaviour that are somewhat unconventional for men.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Professor Madill connects this to a wider cultural shift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThere is much more questioning of sexuality and more flexibility in terms of gender identities,\u201d she says. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cYaoi provides a space to explore it, and that may be one of the reasons why the community is growing, particularly among younger people.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Characters may be male, but they may as well be read as queer or trans. Their identities are not always fixed, and neither is the reader\u2019s relationship to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For some, that openness becomes personal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIn high school, I found out that I was gay,\u201d says Chibi_raincloud. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cReading yaoi and seeing healthy gay relationships helped me figure out who I was at an earlier age. At least I had words for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cBeing able to have an accessible LGBTQ+ thing was a great safe space.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Another appeal of yaoi is how readers position themselves in relation to the story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI was surprised how often people said – I\u2019m an observer,\u201d says Professor Madill.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That response suggests a different way of engaging with intimacy altogether.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Instead of stepping into a character\u2019s role, the reader watches. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
They are not the ones being or doing the desiring. They are looking at how desire works – how two people come together, what makes them compatible, and why attraction forms in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThere\u2019s something about wanting to watch it happen,\u201d says Professor Madill. \u201cTo see how two people come together, rather than having to be in that position yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
She links this to a more indirect way of engaging with desire. Instead of identifying with a character, the reader can watch attraction form from the outside: why someone becomes desirable, what creates emotional chemistry, and how intimacy develops between two people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In heterosexual stories, that process often comes with pressure. Female readers are encouraged to imagine themselves as the woman being desired. Yaoi removes that expectation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIt\u2019s quite challenging to be the object of desire,\u201d Madill says. \u201cIt\u2019s much easier to enjoy watching it happen.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Readers recognise this difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIn heterosexual stories, you begin to identify yourself with the female character,\u201d Koi_256 says. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThat can create a lot of discomfort, especially if the character\u2019s actions do not correlate with your worldview.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In yaoi, that pressure loosens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is another reason why yaoi is popular. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWomen are able to engage with sexual material where they\u2019re not in it,\u201d says Professor Madill carefully. \u201cIt could be considered a paraphilia.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The term refers to forms of sexual interest that fall outside what is typically defined as normative heterosexual desire. It does not imply harm, nor does it apply to everyone who reads yaoi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThat\u2019s not to say that these women aren\u2019t heterosexual in their everyday life,\u201d Madill says. \u201cBut they may be turned on by this kind of niche sexuality, where the characters are putatively both male. And that is not uncommon.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What makes this significant is how little it has been recognised.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Madill describes that paraphilias are mostly discussed in relation to male behaviour, particularly when they intersect with visibility or transgression. Female sexual interests, by contrast, have historically been framed as limited, passive, or secondary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yaoi challenges that assumption.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Its popularity suggests that women\u2019s desires are more varied and complex than often acknowledged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At the same time, this form of engagement is not without criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Some argue that yaoi risks romanticising or simplifying relationships between men, particularly because many of these stories are created by women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Within the community itself, there is awareness of this tension.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI am sure that many consumers of this genre do romanticise or fetishise relationships between men,\u201d Koi_256 says. \u201cSome people consume it primarily for the sake of sexual objectification.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At the same time, she distinguishes between that and more reflective engagement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cAs a creator, I try to approach relationships more thoughtfully,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yang Deli, 20, from London, who identifies himself as gay, does not agree with the criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI don\u2019t really understand why it gets criticised so much,\u201d he says. \u201cIt actually brings more attention to queer relationships and makes them more visible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cSome take it seriously, some don\u2019t, but that doesn\u2019t make it less meaningful.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Back in that dark room, it\u2019s easy to tell yourself it\u2019s just a story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But it is never only that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For many readers, yaoi offers something difficult to find elsewhere: a way of engaging with intimacy without being placed inside it, of watching desire unfold without the pressure to perform it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The room is still dark. The screen still glows faintly against the ceiling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
One chapter ends. And then there is another one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
*Some interviewees requested partial anonymity because of professional and personal privacy concerns.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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