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\u201cMy own rehabilitation experience showed me exactly what was missing. Silence and avoidance were the norm,\u201d he says. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThe mission was simple: end the silence. That\u2019s still what drives me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Approximately 105,000 people in the UK are living with a spinal cord injury, with someone becoming paralysed every two hours according to a 2025 survey by Spinal Research. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
For people with disabilities, particularly quadriplegics, sexuality can often be treated as a stigma due to their experiences typically varying from the \u2018norm\u2019. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dr Tepper says, \u201cThe most important thing is that the medical model of sex doesn\u2019t work for everyone, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen disability brings loss of genital sensation or limited movement, it can feel like the sex you once knew is gone. But that\u2019s only true if you stay attached to one narrow idea of what sex is.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, despite quadriplegics having limited sensation or mobility, they still have sexual needs and wants which shouldn\u2019t be ignored.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cToo many healthcare providers assume sexuality just isn\u2019t a priority for people with disabilities,\u201d he says, \u201cThat assumption causes real harm. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIf friends, families, and clinicians can\u2019t welcome these conversations, people with disabilities need to be proactive in seeking out the information and support they deserve. Stop ignoring the elephant in the room.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For many quadriplegics, their paralysis is something caused by an injury, which can be difficult to adjust to when the concept of intimate relationships is forced to change. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThe biggest misconception is that \u2018I have no feeling, so my sex life is over,\u2019\u201d says Dr Tepper, \u201cLoss of genital sensation is not the end of pleasure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cPeople assume sex is genitally focused, and if that\u2019s compromised, nothing else is possible. That\u2019s simply not true.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n There are now many accessible devices and accessories available for those with limited mobility or movement. <\/p>\n\n\n\n These accessories can be life-changing for those who are quadriplegic, allowing them to have a healthy and intimate sex life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Examples of the best accessible devices, recommended by Dr Tepper, include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are also other accessible options, including oral medications, vacuum pumps, constriction rings, injections, implants and vaginal lubricants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n With so many options available, this shows that sex doesn\u2019t have to be a stigma for people with disabilities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He says, \u201cI\u2019ve found, both personally and in my research, that satisfying sex doesn\u2019t derive only from the genitals. Trust, safety, and connectedness are the real pillars of deep intimacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThe potential for pleasure is far broader than most people are ever taught, disability or not.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n The limitations of sex can be challenged for everyone, with those who have disabilities merely highlighting the importance and true meaning of real intimacy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dr Tepper says, \u201cThe silence around sexuality and disability isn\u2019t just a personal problem, it\u2019s systemic. It lives in rehabilitation wards that don\u2019t address sexual health. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIt lives in schools that exclude students with disabilities from meaningful sexuality education. It lives in a culture that treats disabled people as asexual by default. That silence causes real harm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cDisability can be a doorway into a deeper, more conscious sexuality, not just a barrier to overcome.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" For many people with disabilities, sex can often be treated as a taboo, but for quadriplegics, sex can be a particularly different experience due to their loss of sensation. Quadriplegia is a condition often caused by injuries to the spinal cord, resulting in paralysis of the limbs that can affect motor and sensory function. It […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":232,"featured_media":518,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[21,4],"tags":[61,67,65,64,62,32,31,66,63],"class_list":["post-516","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-connections","category-pillar-1","tag-disability","tag-education","tag-paralysed","tag-paralysis","tag-quadriplegia","tag-relationships","tag-sex","tag-sexuality-educator","tag-wheelchair"],"yoast_head":"\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/pomegranatemag.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/60\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-2026-05-02-122523.png\")
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